Think of Others People as Separate Individuals

This is the sort of question that people would instinctively say yes to, without really taking time to consider the real implications of what the question is asking, and why it is so important to any notion of personal development or growth. At some level think of others people as separate individuals or different from themselves.

It is quite often applies when there is no direct link, or no direct relationship or where the individual does not have a special interest in the other person involved. The issue behind the question, is whether you as a person who is willing or able to give other people the freedom to be themselves, if it can have the potential to conflict with the freedom of your own to become or express yourself the way you want.

This scenario could apply to many, but tend to be associated with areas of life in which the individual has a static or fixed environment, such as at work or at home. While this changing environment, for the majority of people will see them as a problem bigger picture, and it will only handle or try and deal with day-to-day reality of what it produces such an environment.

Most people want to get their own way about a lot of things in life. While it's a pretty broad statement, it might be true. It always brings people into conflict with other people who may also want their own way. There are many ways to resolve the conflict, unfortunately, but the majority tend to be resolved either through physical force or some kind of emotional manipulation.

Perhaps the most visible type of conflict through Alcoholics Anonymous and movement experiences broader recovery from alcoholism and other addictions. An alcoholic is often described as an example of self-will run riot, it generally means that they need to get their own way of life to the extent that they are willing to use copious amounts of will or drive to try and get their own goals and ends preferred.

Many people who go into rehabilitation are often quite surprised at the suggestion that life may be an
example of self-will run riot. Usually they are in denial as their alcoholism that this idea that they have been trampling on others in some way is anathema to them.

The process of recovery from alcoholism is to a large extent structured effort to help individuals realize how driven they feel safe and secure in a way to be in control of the environment around them. This invariably leads to conflict and domination over others, and the recovery process is mostly about trying to reverse this trend.

The process of learning to be a separate human being yourself, and the freedom that comes with it is a core pre-condition to be able to let others into a separate human being and live a life of their own accord. Only then can say the individual has the freedom to relate to each other and hopefully resolve the conflict in a way that is healthy and emotionally expressive.